This Is It

30 days from today (quick Knot check...yep) I'll be married.

I was out on a job survey yesterday for City Hall Norfolk. There was this very nice older lady there who somehow found out I was getting married.

"You know? Thirty years and he's still my best friend."

Of all the horror stories We both have heard of older couples pretty much falling apart, it's good to hear one of those every now and then.

I feel like it's game time. You can prepare for only so long (believe me...we have) before it's finally time to get in there and just do it!

Some helpful advice we have received...

•  Communicate- Even when you don't want to/it's difficult. Do not assume your spouse does/should just "know" what you are thinking.

• Love sacrificially- The more you pore yourself out for your spouse, the better.

• Let others in- Contrary to a pretty scary common belief, marriage doesn't mean you hang up your other friendships. Maintain outside relationships. Falsely believing your spouse is all you need in life is essentially placing them as God in your life....That never works in the long run. 

• The importance of accountability- Invite an older wiser couple into your lives to ask how things are going and suggest what can be approved.

• Heat of conflict- If the only goal of your argument is to be right, you've already lost. Couples who have eachother's best interest at heart will MOST of the time (not always) be open to the opposing side's point of view.

•  Don't stop trying- Keep doing the things that won your spouse over before you were married. These things are still necessary.

• Don't try and copy another couple- God created you two uniquely and individually. 

There's A LOT more but these are some good one's I thought apply well to most people. Not to mention the individual guy/gal advice...really, God has (as always) hooked us up with His wisdom to avoid the pitfalls that our sinful human nature naturally draws us towards.

This will be my last post before our marriage. I have been  forbidden requested to not tweet/facebook/blog/email/messenger pigeon the world about our honeymoon until afterward :) I couldn't be more excited...Thank's to God for hooking me up with this awesome woman!!!!!